Cocoa Break

** Warning! For those that do not like Reality Shows, don’t bother reading this post. It might get TOO BORING/ANNOYING for you. **


Over the last month, I got to see a crazy phase in the life of a friend of mine. He has gotten himself into a deep pile of shit which was covered with fresh blossoms and roses. His current life reminds me of some of the things which I almost forgot about. I was reminded about how this world is full of hypocrites, egoists, psychos and bitches. I would like to list a few characters in this Reality Show for all of you to get a clearer picture of what I am blabbering about now.
Character X (My Friend)

1. Male (For those that goes duh! Please, I could be talking about a girl friend who is involved in this story too.)
2. Had always perceived that women are born Angels! (He thinks that I am a sinner when I talk about the ‘F&C’ rules.)
3. Helpful though he could be bitching about helping you later on in the form of an innocent joke.
4. Believes that the best man should win. (I agree, if there is a competition worth to compete in the first place.)
5. Doesn’t know what to filter out when he speak to some people. He will say anything in his mind and heart without thinking of the after effects.
6. Trusts the wrong people most of the time.

Character Y (X’s Crush)

1. Female (Don’t Duh! again over here. How sure are you I wasn’t talking about a gay friend of mine? =x )
2. Been attached for the past 3 years or so.
3. Pretty and has a group of friends that is by her side always.
4. Suppose to be all good and nothing bad from the inside. Well at least that’s what she portrays herself to be in front of every other person.
5. Willing to aggravate small blunders of others and hide the truths or give partial truths about herself or the situation to save herself from the hot pan. (I’ll leave this up to you to decide. I came to this judgment because I’ve seen a couple of scenarios.)

Now lets come to the girl’s magazine story…Y is “blissfully” attached for the past 3 years when X came into her life about 6 months ago in the form of an online friend. Y’s boyfriend had been busy due to the nature of his life right now and is not able to give 24/7 attention to Y as he did during the earlier days of their relationship. This is common in most relationships by the way.


X is attracted to Y and somehow chemistry sparked in this friendship and they became rather close. Y started hanging on the phone with X day and night in this earlier days of this friendship. They were being sweet to each other and almost seemed like they were dating instead of just being friends.X feelings for Y grew during this intense friendship when he spent most of his time on her, from the phone to online conversations. X started to think that Y may have feelings for him too. Then after sometime, they started to have secret meet-ups. Secret breakfasts, visits at her place, and planned “accidental bump-ins” just so that Y’s boyfriend will not get frustrated over this relationship.


My Comments and Queries: Why have secret meet-ups if you do not think it is wrong in the first place? Why plan accidental bump-ins if you think that the relationship you have with each other are PURE friendship? If you are being secretive on a relationship, it is wrong already. I can’t comment if she spent more time with X than her boyfriend because I do not spy on her 24/7. Whatever it is, she is a cause of X’s feelings to keep growing for her. If she had made it clear and not entertained the lovely stuffs X did for her, it wouldn’t have dragged on this far. Don’t ever give a guy you don’t intend to have a relationship with a token of love. You are leading him on. Like what? Like a red note in the shape of a heart!


Back to story…


Now Y’s boyfriend knows of X’s existence. So what did Y’s boyfriend do about it? He probably told her not to entertain X anymore and just avoid him. So…did she? Apparently, they still go out like normal. Now with extra care. I told X to fuck and stop thinking things might work out with Y. Told him that she has to make a choice, whether she wants the new guy in her life or stick with the old one.

With the impression I had of her, I would say she’ll not break the relationship with her boyfriend for X. She would not want to stain her image for leaving a guy that did nothing wrong but not being able to entertain her enough. Yet she doesn’t want X to go away from her life.Then X & Y had mutually agreed to stay away from each other for sometime until the “love” feelings subside so that they could be normal friends. This idea was proposed by Y anyway. However, she wasn’t able to keep up to it. She called X the next day after her proposition for help on a gift her boyfriend purchased for her.


My Comments and Queries: What would you do if you were X? How would you feel if you were X? Won’t you be offended? When X spoke his mind out about Y not letting him get her off his mind and should have called her boyfriend to help her instead, Y broke down and cried! Why cry over logic? Coz she was offended by X’s harsh comments of course. Can’t accept reality?


Next thing she had to do was bitch about X to all her friends. Of course without telling the whole truth. Only partial truth. Filter things that would make her look bad. Make the other party look like an ass. It’s human tendency to do that. Too bad we don’t have pinocchio’s curse on all of us, else we’ll know it whenever it is not the whole truth.


Now all of Y’s friends hate and curse X to die and rot as if he was the cause of their pathetic lives. Yet behind Y’s wonderful friends that cares about her well being, Y secretly contacts X and says things like, “X! I miss you lar!” and that she don’t care what her friends say but she just hope they could still be friends.


Now readers, please tell me if what X did is sinful.


What did X do?

1. Decided to avoid Y as he wanted to give her peace of mind with her old life with her boyfriend, friends and family.
2. Tried to move on and not attempt to win the heart of an attached girl (Y) anymore.
3. He is trying to be a good guy leaving her. He never looked at Y just as a friend. He was trying to win her heart for God’s sake! You call him seasonal friend and so on? Are you mad?? Unbelievable how some girl’s would react and make a commotion over guys that are “avoiding further growth of feelings”. Friend’s don’t ask for time off when they get into bad terms by the way. They say something like, “F**k you. Leave my life. From today onwards, you are my sworn enemy.”

The only mistake of X that I see was to try and get close to friends of Y and thinking that they will support him instead of Y. This really rarely happens. Most of the time, they’ll just try to make you happy because they don’t want to hurt your feelings.


What has Y done on the other hand?

1. Lead X on to think that they might have a chance in the future if Y and her boyfriend don’t work out. (Keeping him as a spare tyre.)
2. Make X look like the one who is desperately wanting to be in her life to everyone that knows about this little secret and she actually doesn’t entertain him at all.
3. Shows care and concern over X a lot like a real girlfriend. How? I remember one night X didn’t answer her phone call because he fell asleep early. She continued trying all night for a few hours until X picked her call up at about 3am in the morning? If you are a friend that just wants a chat, you won’t be doing that. Would you? If I call a friend and he or she didn’t pick up, I’ll wait till he or she calls me back. I won’t be calling every 5 to 10 mins unless it is so damn important like I might miss a flight because of the fella or the fella owes me long overdue loan amount.

With all this happening, Y’s friends just won’t stop cursing X publicly even though X has not replied a single of those curses except with saying “Sorry”. Even when X apologized he was cursed and sworn like he had crapped on the food they ate. Atrocious!


Best regards to X,


Deen Yusoff

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